I am the peace maker of the family. I actually get sick to my stomach when members of my family are not getting along. I am the one who encourages those involved in the disagreement to talk and get it settled. I therefore put myself in the conflict.
In an effort to work on my own self preservation, I am trying to abandon or at least lessen this role. disagreements usually end whether I am involved or not. Maybe not as quickly as I would like them to, but they get resolved.
It would be interesting to learn why people adopt the role of peace maker in a family. Is it a product of personality? Does birth order play a part? Is it life experiences? Does it come directly from God as a gift? You remember, “blessed are the peace makers” ?
I would also like to learn how to find balance in the role. after all being a peace maker can be a needed and virtuous quality. However, it can also lend one to becoming a scapegoat or doormat, or at the very least appear to be weak.
I am actually OK with being the peace maker. I enjoy being the catalyst of reconciled relationships. Relationships are what really matter in life. Without them what do we actually have that is of any importance?
I am a blessed peace maker.