lets talk about sex.
a younger person recently told me that it truly is all about sex. Is it?
I have found that I am different that many other women I talk with. Not that we specifically talk about sex. but they make it clear that sex is much more important to their husbands than it is to them. It seems as though things have always been the opposite in my marriage.
According to this younger person, who is a male, if the sex is good a man will do anything for you. and that is where the love he feels for you comes from.
I beg to differ with this young gentleman. Although I think sex is very,very important. I don’t think it is a good barometer for love in a relationship. So many other things play a part.
That being said. I want to say that I want to have sex. often. more often than the husband and I actually have sex. But even more than that I want my husband to want to have sex with me. I want to know that he dreams about it. that he craves it. I want to be the utmost object of his desire.
I am going to get to be in the same town as the husband for the next week or so. and guess what. we won’t have sex that much. (unless maybe he reads this) He is in too much pain. His grief is too overwhelming. So it is ok that we don’t have sex. Now that is what is most important in a relationship. Knowing what the other person is going through and putting aside your own wants, desires, and needs for them.
I am going to be with him so he is not alone. (even though he thinks he wants to be alone) So I can comfort him when he cries. When he misses his mother. when he needs me.