needing a break

I have been very busy with school and the family….

 

today I want to scream…. LEAVE ME ALONE! PLEASE.    I

I need a break from my family.   I can’t even begin to explain the issues that every one of them is having.  they are all so needy and on the verge of breakdowns… the problem is I just can’t help them anymore.  I don’t have the time, energy, or answers to do what they need.  and even if I did have the answer they wouldn’t and don’t do what needs to be done to help themselves… they are all grown up   they need to start acting like it.   and I need to get away.  next week is my spring break from school … I am planing to go and stay with the husband, we really need some time together.  although since he took over the bills and finances (thank goodness, finally!!!)  he is very stressed and his stress usually means stress for me.  so I pray that we will have a good week.

WELL   time to get back to the school work.

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About aloneagain3

I am a wife and mother of 5 grown children... and 3 grandchildren.. I have been married for 29 years... I thought I did ok at life... turns out i sucked at it... but I am getting better!! View all posts by aloneagain3

2 responses to “needing a break

  • rose2bfree

    Hello Aloneagain3!
    You can call me Rose! I came across your blog and it caught my attention. Before I begin, let me tell you a little about me. I am married and have been for 21 years and have three children (oldest from a previous relationship who now is 26, single and raising her 2 year old son) and my two teenagers 17 year-old daughter and 15 year-old son. Anyhow, I don’t know anything about you, but I really am applauding you for going back to school. Terrific! And trying to maintain your sanity with family and other stuff you need to take on…as a wife, mother and grandmother. Amazing how much we are given to handle! Whew! Let me say…as I was once there as an out-of-control individual in trying to take care of everything….! It did not do me any good as it only came with a nervous breakdown. Not fun and I do not wish that upon anyone. Let me ask you a question and you think about it for a second? Please, I do not mean to offend you…for it first offended me, too! Had you ever in your life stolen anything? As the individual asked, and here I only met him briefly at a group meeting and wham he through that at me! Again, think about it! It was something that woke me up 2 months ago. My response was “NO”!!! Then he came right back at me and said…think about it…you have and are you willing to continue in doing so? He was speaking in terms of “stealing” other peoples problems. That is what I was doing! I was looking in picking up the pains and troubles from my husband, children and from friends to try and help them when in fact it is their problems to work through not mine. I am only here to listen, guide them but it has to be them, themselves only, to pick up the pieces and help themselves. We are to experience, grow and become stronger as we grow and to learn by it all. If not, it only weakens us and leaves those we love empty and only be dependent upon us. Question again! Do you want to go there? Not me…and believe me….it is working, rough at the beginning, but it works! I am a much happier person since then and I no longer am carrying extra baggage! You are an amazing woman and to always tell yourself that!
    Rose

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