losing trust is probably the most damaging thing that can happen in a relationship. Trust is the cornerstone of every aspect of a relationship. The lack of trust leaves a hole that is filled with doubt and questions. Questions like “what is behind this action?” “am I being manipulated?” “is this genuine?’
Without trust joy and happiness become replaced with fear and sadness. One begins to question their judgement. Slowly life paradigms are distorted and hope fades.
Regaining trust is a fragile process and setbacks are more powerful than gains. It takes a great deal of work. Work by the one who has abused the trust, and an open mind by the one who has lost trust. In my case my mind has been open,and my heart has been open. What have I really opened myself up to? More hurt and more betrayal.
The husband has not done the work necessary, so I have begun to close myself off. Becoming callous. A callus is hard, rough and difficult to break through. I do not want to be a person with callouses.