Maybe tonight

Maybe tonight I will actually take the time to write a proper post. In the mean time I’m cleaning my grandsons room. And this is my job why?

About aloneagain3

I am a wife and mother of 5 grown children... and 3 grandchildren.. I have been married for 29 years... I thought I did ok at life... turns out i sucked at it... but I am getting better!! View all posts by aloneagain3

9 responses to “Maybe tonight

  • Still Loving Him

    Because you made it your job?

  • hiddinsight

    Almost everything, if said with a “mmmmmmmm” groan can be seductive as well 🙂

  • hiddinsight

    I totally agree with you about the vibrator…time to go shopping 🙂

  • hiddinsight

    Something is wrong with him. This is not normal or typical cheating. He needs counselling to figure out what his problems are. It sounds like he cannot be trusted at all. I am so sorry you are going through this. You simply do not deserve it!

    • aloneagain3

      He was going to counseling before he left for work But I’m not sure it was making a difference. At least not in the way I wanted it to. Sometimes he would come home from a session being more selfish and feeling more taken advantage of. But then it is HIS counseling not mine. I wonder if a narcissist can be “cured” anyway. All that being said he didn’t have enough counseling to do much good anyway.

  • userdand

    It’s your job because you are doing it. Is he old enough to pick up his own stuff and run a vacuum, not matter how poorly he does it, or are he and his mother caught up in repeating a cycle you modeled for them. Either way, you can help them change the cycle by showing alternative behaviors. Sounds like a family of codependent enablers to me, and I haven’t read that much so far. READ THE BOOK. DO THE WORK. Forget how he is doing. If he screws up and runs away, you need to be prepared to live the productive life necessary without his assistance. If he goes, he’s gone until he wants something. Don’t be looking to him for help. Your first clue will be that he won’t fight you for shared custody of the kids. This could all fall on you. You need to buck up and start planning on how you would handle that.

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