Love you vs I love you.

One thing I’ve noticed about the effects of an affair on a person is an attention to details.
For example our family has always expressed love for one another verbally. We still do. It used to be perfectly fine for my husband to say “love you”. Now I it bothers me when he doesn’t say “I love you”. It makes a difference some how. Like he loves me but it isn’t romantic love. Or am I being nit picky.

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5 responses to “Love you vs I love you.

  • Flaca

    My husband says I love you. I don’t. I can’t. It bothers me but I just can’t say it.

  • blogventer

    “Now it bothers me when he doesn’t say “I love you”. It makes a difference some how. Like he loves me but it isn’t romantic love. Or am I being nit picky.” –> No, you’re not. And your perceptions generally aren’t “off.” We pick up on things subconsciously before we can identify them with our conscious minds. You’re not being nit-picky. This means something. The question is: what does it mean to YOU?

    • chris9911

      hmmm. I wonder if lot of women are reading the same news article or something. My wife actually brought this up to my attention the other day and tried to force me to say ‘I love you’ instead of my usual “luvya”. Since marriage is about compromise, I went with ‘I wuv you”

      • aloneagain3

        Ha. Well since I wrote this I have tried to just take it as it is. But sometimes adding the “I” gives it a more intimate feeling. You tell your siblings “love ya”. It’s is a different level I guess. But in my case I worry that he uses “I” with the other woman. Thus putting her on a much more intimate level than me. You know the saying “a baby changes everything”. Well the same can be said for a betrayal.

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